I was talking with a coworker this weekend about life experiences and choices. We talked about regret and decisions that lead to pivots in life. I've often heard people say they have no regrets in life, even having been through painful, difficult experiences. But I don't really agree with that. There have been plenty of things I've said or done that I regret. I have hurt others, ignored my intuition, made mistakes, and experienced true heart break.
That being said, I do believe that, for the most part, we're all just doing the best we can with what we've got. So although I regret things in my past, I don't know that I would wish them away. I made decisions that I thought were right. I spoke heatedly, in the moment, charged up on emotions. But these experiences have taught me great lessons.
I've learned to be less judgmental. I've learned that we're all going through our own struggles and insecurities. Regret has taught me to be more patient and open minded. Through heart break I'm learning to keep myself open and vulnerable - but only to the right people. Regret is dangerous when turned into guilt and shame. But I think regret can be powerful when it moves us to grow and evolve emotionally and spiritually.