No
There's a song by Megan Trainor that I heard a long time ago. It's called "No," and I immediately fell in love with its message. If you haven't heard it yet, she's basically saying no to the guy at the bar that keeps approaching her and asking for information about her and for her number.
In my many years at Sacramento State, or my lifetime walking through a mall with those awful stand-alone kiosks that try to call your attention as you're walking by, I've had my fair share of unsolicited propositions to sign a petition or try a new product. It always annoyed me, especially on campus because I was there to study, not sign petitions or discuss where I would end up in the afterlife...
There was one experience in particular when I was in my undergrad where a guy working for a blood drive on campus that day asked me if "I wanted to save a life today," to which I answered, "No, thanks." He came back with a snarky remark about not wanting to help save someone and I spun around and said to him, "You don't have to be an asshole about it," and kept walking. My frustration came from the fact that he had no idea what my circumstances were. He thought his cause was more important that me making it to class on time, or leaving to get to work on time so that I could afford going to school...
I've always prided myself on the fact that I said "no, thank you" to unsolicited invasions into my day, but recently I started asking myself why I always add the "thank you" onto my "no." Because I'm NOT thankful that they're trying to sell me something or convince me of their cause. To be honest I'm 100% annoyed by the intrusion.
I think part of it comes from wanting to be polite, or a good girl, or to not offend anyone. When you're "too forceful" as a woman you're labeled as a bitch. And I get how hard those peoples' jobs must be-to basically accost perfect strangers and get their buy-in to your product or your cause. But moving forward I want to respond with a simple "no." Without a "thank you"attached or a need to justify shutting down someone who I never invited into my personal space.
xxo
In my many years at Sacramento State, or my lifetime walking through a mall with those awful stand-alone kiosks that try to call your attention as you're walking by, I've had my fair share of unsolicited propositions to sign a petition or try a new product. It always annoyed me, especially on campus because I was there to study, not sign petitions or discuss where I would end up in the afterlife...
There was one experience in particular when I was in my undergrad where a guy working for a blood drive on campus that day asked me if "I wanted to save a life today," to which I answered, "No, thanks." He came back with a snarky remark about not wanting to help save someone and I spun around and said to him, "You don't have to be an asshole about it," and kept walking. My frustration came from the fact that he had no idea what my circumstances were. He thought his cause was more important that me making it to class on time, or leaving to get to work on time so that I could afford going to school...
I've always prided myself on the fact that I said "no, thank you" to unsolicited invasions into my day, but recently I started asking myself why I always add the "thank you" onto my "no." Because I'm NOT thankful that they're trying to sell me something or convince me of their cause. To be honest I'm 100% annoyed by the intrusion.
I think part of it comes from wanting to be polite, or a good girl, or to not offend anyone. When you're "too forceful" as a woman you're labeled as a bitch. And I get how hard those peoples' jobs must be-to basically accost perfect strangers and get their buy-in to your product or your cause. But moving forward I want to respond with a simple "no." Without a "thank you"attached or a need to justify shutting down someone who I never invited into my personal space.
xxo
